Having make-up sex sometimes seems like the best solution to a relationship tiff. If you have a huge blowout fight, then you can use it to reestablish that you care about each other, and it can help you feel reconnected. And sometimes there's just this awkwardness in the air even if you've resolved a fight — so having sex seems like the right way to clear the air and reset.
The two of you have had an argument. You're still mad, but he's not — and he wants to make up by making love. Fat chance: You cross your arms in front of your chest and stand firm, unmoved by the tender kisses he attempts to plant on the back of your neck.
All rights reserved. Do you not speak for days before finally giving in and apologizing? Do you make your partner grovel and beg?
The only thing that gets some couples more heated than a tense, emotionally loaded argument? The makeup sex that comes after. While your personal post-fight sexual history might be all the proof you need, research does show that romantic conflict often increases feelings of sexual desire in people.
Why do people think make-up sex is important, healthy and the way to reconnect after a conflict? Is everyone having make-up sex but me? What matters is your private, healthy sex life and what feels right for you in your relationship.
Make-up sex gets a lot of hype, and I can understand why. Under the right circumstances, make-up sex can be a fun, healthy way to move past an argument with your partner. But what no one tells you about make-up sex is this: it rarely solves anything, and it almost never lives up to it's ridiculous cinematic representations.
This means taking responsibility for your actions and apologizing for any wrongdoing. Communicate openly with your partner and make sure to be an effective listener. To make up with your partner after a fight, agree to stop arguing about the topic so you can both move on.
Fighting can fire you up and serve as steamy foreplay. Here's how to use make-up sex in a healthy way. Hey, girl, cue your favorite Ryan Gosling fantasy because it turns out that amazing make-up sex scene in The Notebook isn't just a movie trope. Research shows exactly why make-up sex-you know, sex after a fight or even a breakup-is so hot.
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. Dating Decisions.